Manifesto

• We will never know anything or anyone. The only true things we have are our own feelings here and now. The map is not the territory.
• Time, effort, and experience are the only teachers.
  • Think for yourself. Make a hypothesis and then be wrong. You will learn more this way than believing what people tell you. But don’t waste your time.
  • You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Accept the consequences.
  • Don’t take people’s journeys away from them. Don’t just do something, stand there!
• Be magnanimous to yourself and others.
  • You can only do the best you can with what you have right now. You can change.
  • Believe people when they tell you how they feel. Violence is a tragic expression of unmet needs. Listening and reflecting what you hear is a great start.
  • Seek to understand why people do what they do. Some actions hurt, but the stories we create can hurt way worse. You do not need to react.
• Everyone is on their own path. Learn lessons for yourself and give others the same opportunities.
  • There are no right or wrong choices, nor good or bad people. There is nothing but calculated risk.
  • If you are a “nice” person, you then must fight to be perceived as “nice” forever. Focus on actions instead.
  • Set boundaries to protect yourself. It also gives opportunities for others to learn.
• Understand yourself. Express yourself. Be raw.
  • Be honest and transparent in your motivation. Do so or else they will do so on their own terms. It gets harder if you wait, and it gets easier when you do it.
  • There is no benefit to withholding your true emotional self. It has profound impact on yourself and others. There’s nothing wrong with being who you are.
  • It is vulnerable and profound to bond over what you love. It is easy but shallow to bond over what you hate. You can be excited about things!
  • Only you can ask for what you want and need. How people react to this gives you another opportunity.
• Is it good luck or bad luck? Find joy in the absurdity of life.
• Nobody is coming to save you. There is no fate but what we make.
  • All we have is each other. Helping people feels good.
  • The easiest way to not have to do something is to do it so then you don’t have to do it anymore.
  • It is not a choice between minimizing harm and speaking up for yourself. You can challenge what people say and still be kind.
• Learn what you have and how to manage it.
  • Spend less than you earn. Compound interest is profound.
  • Be strong to be useful.
• Play great and in all things, be easy to deal with.